How To Overcome Self Criticism In Three Simple Steps

How To Overcome Self Criticism

Hello! 

If you find yourself criticising yourself, or being hard on yourself, you are in the right place, because I would like to share with you how to to overcome self criticism, in three simple but powerful steps.

I used to be my worse enemy, and my worse critic. This used to cause me great suffering, but with the steps that I outline in the video, I freed myself from this suffering.

I wish the same freedom for you too! 

A life free from self-criticism is happier, lighter and more heart-centred. 

You can watch the video above or, if you prefer, you can read the script of the video below

Self criticism comes from a mind which is not in harmony, and if you would like to experience a mind which is balanced and peaceful, get my free video course on how to free yourself from worry and overthinking and harmonise your mind.

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Sending much love and many blessings

Paola

You can read the SCRIPT from the VIDEO below

Hello! 

In this video I am going to share with you how to release self-criticism, in three simple but powerful steps. Why do we want to release self criticism? 

Well, chances are that we all are very familiar with the voice of the inner self critic in our mind that tells us that what we do, or the way we do it, or even who we are is just not good enough. It’s a voice of self judgment that often is harsh, and negative, it is a voice that limits our life and that can truly take us away from the joy of living, the joy of being ourselves,  the joy of exploring life like an adventure and of simply enjoying life. Instead it makes us live with insecurities and it makes us put a lot of effort in trying to show ourselves and others that we are good enough, which is exhausting and it never really works.

But when we release self criticism, things start changing! We start to fully, and unconditionally, accept ourself, and we no longer need to show ourself and others that we are good enough, because we come from a place of self acceptance and love. And because of this shift, we also become free to enjoy our life, to explore and express who we truly are, and to align to our life purpose, rather than trying to fulfil someone else’s expectations. 

This is the ultimate freedom, and I would say that this is a worthy transformation, would you agree? And in this video I am going to share with you three fast but powerful steps to overcome self criticism and to step into self acceptance.

This process is something that you can practice the moment you have thoughts of self judgement, and it will allow you to release them, but it’s a process that also goes deep into the root cause of these thoughts, to make sure that these thoughts don’t keep re- emerging. The more you practice this process, the freer you become from your inner critic, and the more you experience the joy of having unconditional self worth, and the freedom that comes with it, the freedom to be fully yourself.

1. The first step of this process is awareness. 

Becoming aware of that inner critical and negative voice. Chances are that we have been living with this voice in our head for such a long time, probably since childhood that we have become familiar with it, and now we may think that it is normal. Perhaps it has even become the default way we talk to ourselves, and we don’t even question it. We accept it. But I am here to tell you that you don’t have to live with this voice, and that this voice is not even yours, it is not the voice of your true self.

You see, what has happened is that we have internalised the voices of others, the judgements that we have perceived around us. Deep down we all want and expect full acceptance, love and even celebration of who we truly are, unconditionally!

And yet we have been judged, perhaps by parents, or siblings, or family members or teachers, or peers who instead of seeing us as who we really are, instead of accepting us fully, have been harsh, or critical, or have shown us some love, but in a way that was not unconditional.

As a consequence we have internalised this judgement as this inner voice. This voice is there to push us in an attempt to get us to change and become someone who can be finally be accepted and receive the love and approval that we did not receive in the past as children.

But as you might have noticed, this strategy does not really work and it keeps us under pressure, and in constant misery! The misery of not feeling good enough and not fully accepting and loving ourselves.

When we realise that this is what happened, that we have internalised a judgement that is not even ours, then we can start putting a distance between us and these voices or criticism, and we can start questioning them.

Questioning whether they comes from wisdom and love, or from our wounded self, which is also our ego self, and by ego self I mean the part of us which lives in separation from love.

So the first step is awareness: recognising this inner voice of criticism, catching ourself in it. Recognising it as a well practiced habit, but also recognising that we don’t need to put up with it, or even cope with it: we can indeed release it! And how do we release it?

With step number 2 

2. The second step is to activate the wisdom of your heart.

We have established that those negative voices are not even yours.They are not your truth! So the way to release them and shift them for good is by activating your truth, your wisdom. A wisdom that resonates with your true essence, and not something that you have absorbed from others who did not show you love, and were not even coming from wisdom, because they were not coming from love!

One of the easiest ways to awaken the wisdom of your heart is to ask yourself : what would I say to my best friend or to someone I deeply love in this situation? What would I say to them if I knew they were being harsh on themselves? This question allows us to open up to our true wisdom, the wisdom that comes from the essence of love that we are.

This is also the wisdom of our third eye, the part of us that sees through the eyes of love. It become obvious then to us that those self critical thoughts are not compatible with true love and compassion! We would not say those words to someone we love, we would not put so much pressure on them, of course we wouldn’t.  Because we love them!

This is so clear when we think of someone we love. This simple question allows us to activate the wisdom within us! Then once we activate that wisdom we can clearly see that those thoughts of self judgement are not in line with our wisdom, with our truth, and with the love and compassion that we want to embody in our life. 

We cannot fully embody love towards others if we don’t embody self love. The two things are not really compatible. It is not authentic embodied love if it excludes us. But by awakening the wisdom of our heart, we start opening up to true authentic and embodied love.

This allows us to do the third step, which is a step where we go and heal that part of us that created those thoughts of self judgement in the first place. So that we no longer keep recreating thoughts of self criticism and judgement.

This is why this process is so deep and effective. It is not just a quick fix in the moment you find yourself judging yourself, but it goes deeper into the root cause of self criticism, to release it at a deep level.

3 The third step is to love the part of you that needs to be fully accepted.

As we said, those thoughts of self criticism did not come from your true self, but from your wounded self, your ego mind, the part of you that felt separate from love, the part of you that lives in survival mode, trying to avoid pain, the pain of not being accepted. And yet paradoxically this part lives in pain and separation. 

So this third step is about healing that part of you, through love. That part of you wants to be unconditionally loved and accepted. It feels as if it’s not good enough! Always having to measure up to some sort of self imposed standard, which is actually a standard you have internalised when you felt judged  and not fully accepted in the past.

So how do you do that? How do you heal that part of you? Once you have activated your wisdom by thinking about what you would say to a loved one, simply say those things to yourself: Things like “ I love you. You are good enough. What you did is good enough. I see you as perfect. Don’t worry, you don’t need to show anyone that you are good enough, because you are good enough already! So go and enjoy your life! “

All this wisdom and more will naturally emerge from the wisdom of your heart when you tap into it!

So how do you release and overcome self criticism?

1 First, you recognise it, you catch yourself when you are having self-critical thoughts

2 Second, you centre yourself into your heart so you can see with the eyes of love and you ask yourself: “what would I say to someone I love?”

3 Third, you say those things to yourself, and you go and love and fully accept that part of you that needs that love

So go ahead and practice this process, and you will experience a real shift in your life.

And if you want to experience an even deeper transformation and free yourself from worry and over-thinking and harmonise your mind, I have a gift for you,  it is a free video series that teaches you how to do just that, in three simple, fast but powerful steps.

This is the same process that I teach my coaching clients with amazing results, and that I used in my life to free myself from worry, overthinking and negative thoughts, so I could have a balanced, clear and peaceful mind. This is possible for you too, so click on the link below and you can have it!

Now I would love to hear from you! Did you find this video useful? What resonated with you? Have you got any questions? I would love to hear! Just comment below and I will be happy to answer your comments.

Sending lots of love and many blessings

Paola